Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships (Part 1 of 4).
Greetings. It is 2015 and this year I want to focus in my blog on this theme: Healthy versus Unhealthy relationships. As you know, as a relationship counselor I want to help people in relationships to pursue and have healthy relationships. Educating you to understand and know the difference between what is healthy and what is unhealthy is the goal of this year’s blog.
I am not sure what you think of when it comes to your description of what is a healthy or unhealthy for a relationship. Maybe this is something that you do think about or maybe you are so use to unhealthy relationships that you don’t even think about this topic very often. Maybe for you being unhealthy or being in an unhealthy relationships seems normal for you.
But my goal this year is to focus on 9 differences between what are the habits, thoughts, choices and attitudes of people who do choose healthy relationships and what are the unhealthy choices and patterns that people also choose that results in people being unhappy and depressed over their relationships.
My hope and pray is that as I ask a question each month, that you will really stop and consider the ramifications and the applications of these questions. And as I ask these questions, my hope is that you will examine all your relationships through the lens of the question I ask each month.
To begin with, do you know even what a healthy or unhealthy relationship is? Have you ever sat down and thought about the people in your life and considered: What are some of the character traits of those people that would lead you to think that, this is a healthy relationship? Can you also sit down and think of some traits of people in your life that for you could be described as unhealthy and you recognize the effects of how this unhealthiness brings you doubt, fear, and depression?
For the sake of this blog, I am going to assume that all people, at the core. do want healthy relationships. As you know, in the last ten years, there has been a huge shift in our society in trying to help people medically become healthier. Today there are many cookbooks that have as a theme eat this, don’t eat that. This theme is attempting to educate people on what are some good and healthy foods for you to eat and what are some not so good and unhealthy foods for you to eat.
For example, we now know more today the important of looking over the ingredients and checking out the numbers when it comes to fat content, calories, carbohydrates and both salt and sugar intake. Today our society is a lot more educated and smart when it comes to checking out the numbers on food items at a restaurant or the numbers on the back of a package to determine if the numbers line up with what you would consider healthy or unhealthy.
But what about your relationships? Do you know what to look for when it comes to a description of what is a healthy or unhealthy relationship? You may do a really good job of determining what to eat and what not to eat when it comes to your diet. You also may have come a long way when it comes to knowing what or not what to spend your money on when it comes to your budget and investing.
But how do you face and deal with the people in your life when it comes to discerning what is healthy and what is not healthy? My focus this year is to ask of you to think about this topic so you can find yourself moving towards and pursuing healthier people and healthier relationships. Thanks for reading and I look forward to assisting you in knowing what is healthy or unhealthy for a relationship.