Is Time Your Friend? (Part 3 of 4).
Greetings. The focus of this post is to ask you as a Christian how you view time and is time your friend or your enemy? If time is your enemy, then you will be both impatient and demanding of yourself, others and in general how you view life. A demanding life is not a good life.
So let me ask you a question: Think of something in your life in which you are demanding. Lets began with you demanding something of your spouse. And let’ say you want empathy and not criticism from your spouse. You are tired of being criticized and controlled by your spouse and you have grown impatient with your spouse due to his or her failure to be empathic. A demanding life will always view someone not changing as you look for evidence to point out how someone is failing you.
When time is not your friend, then time will be viewed as both demanding and looking for evidence that your spouse has failed you. So your spouse expressed some hope that they do want to change. Your spouse recognizes that being critical of you is not working and does desire to change from being critical of you to being more kind and caring of you.
The challenge is how you view future time. If you insist that you spouse immediately change from being critical to being kind, then you will always try to control time by looking for evidence that you spouse will change. You will view future time as your enemy due to the pressure you are putting on your spouse to change. And when he does not change, then you will be critical and demanding of him that he is less than kind. Or let’s say you want to lose 20 pounds. You put pressure on yourself by becoming demanding of yourself and when you do not lose these 20 pounds quickly, then you will become impatient of yourself, and then viewing of not losing 20 pounds as evidence that you are a failure.
If time is your enemy, then you may look for ways to shortcut people or yourself by demanding of yourself to change now. But as you know, time will always be your enemy when you shortcut time by demanding change either of your spouse or of yourself. When that person does not change fast enough or you become think you should be better by now and if not, then you will demand more and view not changing as evidence that you are a failure.
The challenge for all of us is to view time as your friend because when we do, then we will be less demanding, less critical, less likely to view life or others and yourself as a failure. Find ways in your life to win and be successful versus the tendency to always feeling like a failure and view others as failure. Because when you view time as your friend, than you will think of ways to add something in order to change versus doing nothing and then becoming demanding. Thanks for reading and if you need help with this, feel free to give me a call or view my website.