The Holiday Season: Marriage Tips (Part 4 of 7)

Greetings. In the next 7 weeks, I want to write to spouses and to your marriage about how the two of you are going to experience this holiday season. I will use the word holiday by writing about each letter to give your marriage some tips about how to experience this season. I hope you find these tips helpful. In the first two blogs, H is for happy and O is for our time. L is for listening.

For this post, the next letter is Intention. What comes to mind when you think of this word intention? Can you recognize that this is an important word to communicate to your spouse what are your intentions when it comes to your marriage and for this holiday season?

During this holiday season, I want to challenge each spouse to pursue your intention to be with your spouse. This holiday season can be so full of doing and going. Lots of invitation and activities to attend to. But the greatest gift you can give to your spouse and your marriage is to be intentional in wanting to be there for each other.

When you can say to your spouse, I intentionally and purposely want to be there with you and for us, then you are saying to your spouse that the greatest gift to give each other is a wanting and desire to be present with each other. We all feel pressured to buy a gift. But the best gift you can give is to let your spouse know what your intentions are.

To be intentional is to strive to be the best you can be for your spouse during this season. It is saying we are # 1 and together we intentionally need to value and place as importance our focus and purpose of wanting to be there for each other. It is not the things we buy nor is it the places you go but it is who you are in wanting with good intentions and purpose to be there for each other.

So value and emphasis to each other this holiday season the wanting to be there for each other. When you both can intentionally express and focus on wanting one another, then both of you are saying to each other, you mater, we matter, and I want us to focus on being here with one another.

Thanks for reading.

Phillip Kiehl, LMFT #42351
Author of “Creating the Healthy Marriage You Want: Stop Accusing & Start Accepting One Another.”